I have never really understood this age business. What is really meant by “acting your age”? Being restrained in your behaviour? or looking serious and sombre, to be taken seriously? Well I have seen these qualities in some 20 year olds and let me tell you, there is one word to describe them- morose. Yes, many people do develop a certain persona with the passage of time and exude an air of sophistication; but I always wonder, isn’t he/she feeling stifled inside? By controlling every word, expression, smile, laugh, body movements etc, isn’t the person heading for an empty life eventually? Hey , If that sounded too “pseudo”, lemme put it simply. I always wonder to myself – this person has every word, action, reaction measured; as if he/she is always on a stage, performing- when is the explosion/blast gonna take place? And if the blast doesn’t happen, then surely they will end up becoming insufferable and disgruntled- a real pain to be around?
Acting your age- Does it mean dressing a certain way and foregoing the teenage-ish type of clothes? But really, it’s more about how one carries an outfit. I wear the dresses that used to fit me like a glove till about 2 years back; and now I have got them altered to fit my currently-a-“wee”-bit-heavier ( 😉 😉 ) frame. And I don’t feel self-conscious wearing them. Should I? I know I am not svelte nowadays, but the point is, I absolutely love wearing them. According to me, that should sum it up- do what you want to and say what you think. That’s like “acting yourself”; and when you are acting yourself, you are acting your age!
I have also never understood the concept of lying about one’s age. Hey, if I say that I am 38 instead of 39; would that make me a tad bit more attractive, or would it increase the desirability quotient? How’s that gonna increase my worth? To all the girls out there, any age that you are in, is quite fine. Many people are wistful about their 20’s and hate the fact that they are fast approaching mid-life. I too look back fondly at the bygone days ; but hey, I am quite ok in my present life too. The clarity that I have now, about certain beliefs of mine; was simply not there earlier. And I am more than happy with the present unselfconscious “me”, a state that was reached after years of gaining experience and understanding
In the arena of life, you win some and you lose some; but you always gain something. And what have I gained? Well I have gained a state of mind where I don’t understand the term “acting your age”. Do you?
© Sept 2016 Sapna Dhyani Devrani