We all have them in our lives- the Shining Stars and the Dark Clouds. The “Shining Stars” are those people who exude a warm vibe that makes you feel at ease when you are around them. They maybe close to you or mere acquaintances; but you will know them as your shining stars by the warm glow that you feel when you are around them. They are relaxed persons who don’t play any games, so you find yourself relaxing in their company , and smiling. They inspire you to dream and have fun. You don’t need to censor your speech around them and can say what you feel. They will be kind to you without making it obvious; their healthy self esteem doesn’t require that. They will help you and not expect anything in return. The shining stars might not have an in-your-face cheerfulness; they might even be loners. But they are self assured and don’t compete with others. That’s why, they will be genuinely pleased when they see another person doing well. Really , there is no rocket science being discussed here- you just sense it. Being around some people makes you feel warm, cozy, safe and relaxed- they are your very own Shining Stars. Cherish them, they are precious and hard to find.
Then there are the “Dark Clouds”. Within moments of being around these people, you start to feel uncomfortable. They emit negative vibes, making you want to move away from them. These are the disgruntled souls who are unhappy with their lot in life. They blame other people, circumstances and fate for whatever is going wrong in their lives. They are bitter and feel hollow inside when they see others who are , in their opinion, doing well. If they see that you are happy, they will say something that will wipe your smile away. If he or she is someone who is close to you, then they will be like leeches, sucking your happiness away. They will unload all their bitterness, complaints, worries on you; because it’s their “right” to do so; and so you are obliged to hear about their misfortune. They will whine, cry and make you feel responsible about helping them. Some of the “dark clouds” are simply vicious. They will be mean, sarcastic, bullying and will try their best to break your spirit. They believe in _ ” live, but not let live “.They only want to bring you down, because it makes them feel better about their own shortcomings. Really, there is no rocket science being discussed – you just sense it. Being around some people makes you feel drained ,edgy and irritable – they are your Dark Clouds. Avoid them. They are selfish and are aplenty.
To me, it all boils down to that big word – KINDNESS. Those who have this trait in them, they are the Shining Stars; and those who don’t , are the Dark Clouds.
So, have you identified the Shining Stars and the Dark Clouds in your life?
© Aug 2016 Sapna Dhyani Devrani